Big sisters dressing little brothers.

How do you connect with different individuals in your family as you get older, as interests change, as personalities and responsibilities and relationships and careers and geography change the nature of what you once had daily?

I don’t know. It’s a lifelong question, a lifelong quest to find and create ways to stay connected with those I love and once grew up with.

And now I have my own children, we have our own kids, and are watching them forge connections with one another. You guess and conjecture the ways they might connect, and sometime you’re right and sometimes you’re not.

And a lot of times you create an environment and help provide some character and boundaries to spring forth from, and you get surprised. Again and again, by the ways in which they connect. Maybe one day it’s over making banana bread and the next it’s over fashion design.

I love to see people find the best parts of themselves, the best interpretations and versions, and face the world with that, with confidence and verve and panache, and to find communities and comrades to do so with together.

I guess some good reminder-advice for today is: Be yourself. The best version of yourself. Or at least the most stylish.

And if you have a sister, always trust their fashion advice.

Let yourself be surprised by the ways in which those you care about connect with each other.

Toddler-age boy doing dressup with his big sister.